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- Nard

Wonderland...

     

     This earth was created to inhabit and create life. I believe that we all serve a purpose and that we all have a choice. Life is all about choices; the right and wrong. We all reach a crossroads throughout our journey in life and whether we go left or right all depends on us. We subconsciously make decisions everyday to evoke action. Sometimes we have to take the road less traveled to get to where we need to be. Your destiny may be right in your grasp but it is completely up to you to acknowledge and let that destiny manifest.

     This world consist of billions of people along with a myriad of things to do and see. Only an ignorant person would say they have done it all but a wise man in his travels knows that there is much more to life that is unbeknownst. You have got to be fearless and face the world ready to learn and explore the many things life has to offer. I always say "Be Blessed and Dress to Impress". That is something to live by. You never know what you may encounter on your journey through life.

     Lately I have been hearing the term "YOLO" (You Only Live Once) being used as an excuse to do things that aren't necessarily concur to the norms of society. I do agree with the fact that you do indeed "only live once" but will the decisions you make tarnish your reputation or (God forbid) your well being. Remember this saying while you're out there in the world: "YODO" (You Only Die Once). Be mindful of the choices that you make and how it may affect your present and most importantly; your future.

     I hope you think about this article when you come across a fork in the road. May you have faith and reap all of the joy and love that the world has to offer.

Lemonheads...

     There is one thing that I CAN'T STAND and those are lemon heads...

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     Lemon heads are those who constantly surround themselves with negativity. They thrive off that shit and the drama that accompanies it.  These kind of people make me step out my character.. QUICK! I wish someone would try to rain on my parade.. let alone come at me with some crooked or backward ass mess. Save the attitude.  As much class, pride and tact I have about myself I can and will flip when it comes down to some relentlessly ignorant shit.

     I never got why people are always so negative.. if you've got problems why don't you just solve em? There are facts and there are opinions. Go off the facts.. be happy or move the fuck on. Don't bring that negative energy around me and mine. I will politely excuse myself from the situation the first time.. the second time will be considered an act of disrespect and you will be dealt with properly.

 

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Who Am I ????

     This blog should be called WHO I AM because as of late everyone seems to have these preconceived notions about who I happen to be. I use to say "I am whatever you think I am" because I simply didn't care about what others thought; now I'm putting it all out there. There are people who believe that I'm just another gay guy who is supposed to be flamboyant and worships Beyonce. I couldn't be further from that stereotype. I actually worship Rihanna. LOL, just kidding. I'm more than my sexual orientation. I'm a man that just happens to be attracted to other men and gorgeous women.

      There are people who say that I scream SEX. Maybe it is because of my Scorpio horoscope. I don't know; I don't try to be sexy. I asked some of my close friends and they just said I give off a vibe and one said that it was all in my eyes. #KanyeShrug. Being sexy is not a bad thing I guess. You guys haven't seen me 1st thing in the morning. Some people think I'm self absorbed when I just really have a healthy amount of confidence and self-esteem but who wants to be a Debbie Downer?

     I hate when people say that I'm trying to be something. As if everyday is Halloween and I'm just playing dress up. I don't like the term "trying"... I'm not trying to be anything. There's no adjective that can describe me. A lot a things that people assume about me are just that...assumptions. I don't dare to be different. I just am.

I love who I am. I own who I am. My body and my soul are the only things that truly belong to me in this life. No one and or no thing could take myself away from me. Who I am today will be who I am tomorrow... just another day wiser. ;-)

- Renard

Relationship 101:

     The topic of sex, love, pain etc... has always been kinda deja vu to me. It's always the same scenario. Boy meets girl, girl falls for boy or vice versa. One is more dominant and the other more passive. Blah Blah Blah. Let the game begin with Relationship 101. I recently had several conversations with friends on relationships and things of that matter. I have found that a lot of us don't even know what a relationship is. We build up ideas in our head that relationships are supposed to be this picture perfect, cookie cutter concept based on what we see in movies, books, reality etc.

     I have a female friend who desperately wants to be in a relationship. Now this goes back to the build up of what a relationship should be. It looks good on paper but in reality you never know what you really want until you test the waters. The idea of a long term relationship may look good but six months in and after the "honeymoon stage" you may notice things about the other person that may be hard to swallow. Just look at these movies as a reference: What's Love Got to Do With It and Waiting to Exhale. Are you Tina or are you Bernie?

      I also talked with one of my male friends who said he wouldn't mind a relationship just because he gets bored being by himself. "Well, why can't you entertain yourself?" I asked. The response was "There's nothing to do by myself". Translation: "I don't want to be seen as a loner going out to eat or to the movies by myself." There is plenty to do by yourself and quite frankly I enjoy making moves by myself sometimes. It can be fun; exciting even. You can meet new people without the crowd of your friends or a date. I call it being in a relationship with yourself.


     Two of my associates have said they haven't had sex in months. One admitting it has been a whole year. The two associates have said they wouldn't mind someone to cuddle with... and we all know what cuddling leads to.

Mhmmmm. I even know a few virgins who aren't strung out on the idea of sex or a relationship.

     Some of us believe in finding the "one" and some of us believe in friends with benefits. There's a balance and a comparison in there somewhere. A relationship is a concept that we all fall in love with but aren't willing to see past the glitz and glamor to reveal what the true meaning of it is.

When you find out, let me know.

-Renard

Express Yourself!

Everyday the world awakes and goes about their normal routine of the morning stretch followed by some sort of morning ritual. For some it's a shower that gets them going and for others it's a tall caffeinated drink but for me it's what I'm going to wear; who am I going to be today?

Everyday celebrities and a select few of us normal folk arise and get fabulous for the world to see. I Vito my entire wardrobe the night before so that when I awake I will have some clue as to what I will wear and how I will present myself. So I wake up wipe the dust from my eyes and put some music on, do my morning ritual, check the news to see the weather forecast and then its on. I stumble through pairs of shoes scattered across the floor and rumble through my closet as I glance over to my clock to make sure I'm not running late because it's one thing to be fashionably late and just plain late.

After looking at and trying on different garments I finally throw something together that just feels right. Because you have to wear the clothes.. not let the clothes wear you. The whole point is that I express myself in many different ways. Whether I write, state my P.O.V, or just get dressed; I live with purpose.

After all, I don't get dressed up NOT to be seen. lol

140 Words or Less...

In this era of technological abbreviations it is a lot easier to communicate via web, phone etc... But is the ever advancing world of technology making private life not so personal?

Throughout the day I like to take to my blackberry and storm the web/facebook/twitter with things that happen around me and random ideas that just happen to pop into my head based off the trending topic of the day. While scrolling my never ending timeline I see information from those I follow which leave very little to the imagination.

Twitter/Facebook are some of the most self incriminating sites that people venture to each day. Some take to the web to rant about their "oomf" who called them at 3am last night and some, just to inform you of which song they are "now playing" (like we give a shit). There are those who go from married to divorced to widowed and then back to single within an hour and then there are people who just want to slap you across the face with a happy stick because they are having such an awesome day. Well I'm not happy.



People, WE DON'T NEED TO KNOW YOUR EVERY MOVE..and you shouldn't want us to. I mean think about it. Do you really want your serial killer looking stalker to know that your down the street at the local Starbucks enjoying a Venti Frappuccino? NO.. didn't think so. So next time you think about tweeting, posting a status, or informing the public that your down the street and around the corner REMEMBER that crazy follower "@desperatedebbie" or Facebook friend "Jerome "CaniGetyaNumber" Jenkins" is following everything you say/do.

Something to think about.


Renard

Forgiveness Pt. 1

When I was younger I did things without thinking them through first...as I still sometimes do today. I learned in order to avoid the whole "I'm sorry for..blah" I had to think things through and look at the bigger picture. Such as how the other person would feel or react to my words or my actions. You will be surprised what I came up with..

I have been deeply hurt by people close to me and those not so close to me. It's that one comment from someone that makes your heart just clench like its been put through a juicer. And for those moments, you experience rage, anger and all the above. You want to kill the person that brought such negative emotions into your cool demeanor.. but you also want to cry while stabbing them in the neck. The reason for that is a) what they said was the cold hard truth. b) the person that said those words or did you wrong was someone you love. c) you never knew/thought a person could be so cruel. We tend to take things that people we don't know or love say with a grain of salt. While those who we do care about and respect, their words, cut like knives.

The thing is how do we get over hurtful things people say or do... it is of course forgiveness. Forgiveness is often sought after in order to heal, BUT forgiveness starts within ourselves. We have to say "I forgive you", mentally in order to get over the hurdle that has hurt us emotionally. Now I know it feels a lot better when someone comes begging for forgiveness with your favorite food or flowers in hand (like a boyfriend or girlfriend who did something wrong) but the reality is forgiveness is something that happens from within.

Who wants to hold a grudge right? Get over it. Live

Renard