We've Moved!

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- Nard

March On!

Marching forward.. moving on.
 This is something we all have to do to make progress. You can't get anywhere in life by staying in one place. If you have any troubles, worries, or negative energy just leave it all behind. Life is entirely too short to be taken for granted. Enjoy each day... even those rainy days. Don't let anyone tell you that you can't or won't. Keep good company around you that encourages and supports your dreams and helps you through your realities. 
And for anyone or anything that gets in your way just tell em..
Let them eat pussy.
Let them eat shit.

 

Here's to new beginnings!

- Nard

Take care

You can't build a bridge and get over everything.

Sometimes it takes years to build a bridge.

And sometimes it takes even longer to cross it.

We've all been hurt. 

the morning after..

 

Valentines Day is over.

Morning After Pills are sold out everywhere.

People are questioning their relationships.

...just wanted to say

Happy Valentine's Day Bae...

For a Legend.

Miss Whitney Houston,
     You were something to be marveled and inspired by. A true artist, diva, and entertainer with an chilling, unforgettable voice. I recall a time in my youth where my mother would put on the track "I Will Always Love You" and that would always get me out of bed in the mornings. I would wake up hitting the big And IIIIIIIIIIIIII!!!!! note or trying to hit that note lol. Whitney, we will always love you and you will greatly be missed. 

Still can't believe that you're gone...

Wonderland...

     

     This earth was created to inhabit and create life. I believe that we all serve a purpose and that we all have a choice. Life is all about choices; the right and wrong. We all reach a crossroads throughout our journey in life and whether we go left or right all depends on us. We subconsciously make decisions everyday to evoke action. Sometimes we have to take the road less traveled to get to where we need to be. Your destiny may be right in your grasp but it is completely up to you to acknowledge and let that destiny manifest.

     This world consist of billions of people along with a myriad of things to do and see. Only an ignorant person would say they have done it all but a wise man in his travels knows that there is much more to life that is unbeknownst. You have got to be fearless and face the world ready to learn and explore the many things life has to offer. I always say "Be Blessed and Dress to Impress". That is something to live by. You never know what you may encounter on your journey through life.

     Lately I have been hearing the term "YOLO" (You Only Live Once) being used as an excuse to do things that aren't necessarily concur to the norms of society. I do agree with the fact that you do indeed "only live once" but will the decisions you make tarnish your reputation or (God forbid) your well being. Remember this saying while you're out there in the world: "YODO" (You Only Die Once). Be mindful of the choices that you make and how it may affect your present and most importantly; your future.

     I hope you think about this article when you come across a fork in the road. May you have faith and reap all of the joy and love that the world has to offer.

Music Monday

Welcome to the coronation of Music Mondays!!!!

For the first ever "Music Monday" I will like to introduce one of my all time favorites.. No Doubt! I remember being in grade school and listening to them. They had wicked original style and delivered a twisted pop/ska sound. This is one of my favorites from the group.. a mellow grove set for easy listening. Here's "Underneath it All".. check it out.

Hello February...

Valentines Day, Black History Month, Shortest month on the calendar..

     I could ramble about how much I love/hate Valentines day and I could waste my time talking about how we only give 28 (29 due to leap year this year) days to recognize black excellence. I could..I should.. I can.. BUT I won't. I celebrate everyday I'm alive. I give love to those who deserve it and I show respect to my brethren when I feel it has been earned. This month is a month to be inspired by those who paved the way for the likes of you and I to be great.

     A few African Americans who inspire me are of course Barack & Michelle Obama, Kanye West, Kerry Washington, Arthur Ashe, Phyllis Hyman etc.. They all have their own unique stories; I'm still writing mine. I hope to inspire others to be fearless and go out and push their dreams forward. That's my goal.

     Most of my readers know how I feel about love. If you're new click here.. http://duhhebadd.blogspot.com/2012/01/love.html 

     I'll let my readers in on a little dirty secret.. despite how I feel about love.. I LOVE it! I love, love. I like this time of the month actually. I like the tacky teddy bears and the chocolate filled hearts covered strawberries. I love the feeling in the air when I step out into the city to see all the couples going out to rekindle their flame and to celebrate the love they have for each other. I LOVE that shit! Will I have a Valentine? We Will see.

So here we are in February... A fresh start for many. Kind of like a second new year for some. I welcome you with open arms. Lets see what you've got in store for us February. 

 

Until tomorrow comes, take care for now..

<3 - Renard

Religion to me.

     Now, I'm not really a religious person.. I mean the only Christian thing I know are Louboutins. Just kidding, but this scripture spoke to me.

Here's Psalms Chapter 1 verse 1&2:

“Blessed is the man that walked not in the counsel of the ungodly, nor standeth in the way of sinners, nor sitteth in the seat of the scornful. But his delight is in the law of the Lord; and in His law doth he meditate day and night.”

     I have walked amongst some pretty "ugly" folk in my day and the best thing is to let the miserable be. Misery loves company... let them flourish in their own funk. They are indeed ungodly. Stride in your own lane and be GREAT!

Take care,
- Renard

Lemonheads...

     There is one thing that I CAN'T STAND and those are lemon heads...

follow me..

 
     Lemon heads are those who constantly surround themselves with negativity. They thrive off that shit and the drama that accompanies it.  These kind of people make me step out my character.. QUICK! I wish someone would try to rain on my parade.. let alone come at me with some crooked or backward ass mess. Save the attitude.  As much class, pride and tact I have about myself I can and will flip when it comes down to some relentlessly ignorant shit.

     I never got why people are always so negative.. if you've got problems why don't you just solve em? There are facts and there are opinions. Go off the facts.. be happy or move the fuck on. Don't bring that negative energy around me and mine. I will politely excuse myself from the situation the first time.. the second time will be considered an act of disrespect and you will be dealt with properly.

 

Try me.

The Reality of.. OZ?

We all know about the infamous movie "The Wizard of Oz" but lets have peek beyond the surface of each character.

     Lets start with the cowardly lion. The poor lion was a beast with no courage. That's like having the nicest dick game in the world but too shy to get at the girls. My solution for the lion is to simply grow some balls. Life begins at the end of your comfort zone.. not at the end of the rainbow. But lion, your alright in my book... with ya asexual ass. 

     Next up is the tin man himself. Now the tin man is a pure klutz but desired a heart. Some say he just wanted to be loved.. but how can someone as cold as "tin" be capable of loving another (socially speaking). Who needs a heart when a heart can be broken.. My solution for the tin man is to just be the cold hearted bachelor you were meant to be.

     Here's to the scarecrow. Now, the scarecrow is a smart man.. and he didn't even have a brain. But out of all things he could have wished for... he wished for a brain. Maybe he wanted to learn about new things, further his education at the local Emerald City Community College or even the University of Oz. The scarecrow already had courage and learned early on that a heart isn't necessary when your already living. My solution for the scarecrow is to go all the way and get ya masters/doctorate.

     Last but definitely not least is Mrs. Dorothy. Dorothy just wanted to go home and we can all relate to that. It's hard being thrown into a new world complete with villages of little people, green witches, flying monkeys and trees that fight back... not to mention the characters above! We have all been somewhere or stuck in a predicament where we wish we could just click our heels together 3 times to send ourselves back to the norms and realities that are routine for us. Unfortunately life doesn't quite work like that all the time. My solution for Dorothy is to either deal with the situation or hop in that Aston Martin and be on to the next.

     Now if I was thrown in some crazy world such as OZ and told to "follow the yellow brick road" just make sure my feet are fly..

 - Renard

Love.

Love is a curse. 

An emotion that is unorthodox and unstoppable.

And in life... Love will forever break your heart.

                                                          - Renard

     In the previous post I stated that you can't control who you love... and that is true. All of us experience and express our love in different ways. I would like to believe that everyone has a happy ending and that love comes as easy as it sounds, but the reality of it is that it's far from that. Love is just one emotion of many. You have to deal with all these crazy emotions on a day to day basis. You can however, control how long you want to hold a grudge, you can control how angry you allow yourself to get and you can control your happiness. 

     In life, when you find the one you can see yourself being with for the long haul, there are expectations. You expect your significant other to communicate with you, tell you the truth, be there when you need them and most importantly, demonstrate their love for you everyday. Unfortunately it doesn't always go that route. Loving someone will make you cry, make you feel pain worse than when you first fell off your bike .. love will drive you insane and love will downright break your heart.

     Whether your looking for it or have already found it.. hold onto your love! Save it for the one you know will value everything about you. Not everyone is privileged, deserving or has the luxury to experience your love. And if you've found love.. keep it close. The heart is too delicate to be broken. There's no cure for a broken heart.

love is complicated.

Update.

     Well it's a new year and lately I have been feeling a little distant from the rest of the world. It feels as if I have to take a step back reexamine friends, relationships, my work, my happiness and overall progress as a whole. It's funny how people say new year, new attitude because now it seems I have to reintroduce myself to those who I have known for years. Even the ones I have known for shorter amounts of time have turned the tides on me. Was I blind all of last year? Do I just ignore the big change? And then it hits me. Why am I so concerned and caring about those who don't give two shits about me? Let's just call it my "Aha moment".

     As far as friends are concerned I have always felt light years ahead of my peers; more so when it comes down to my maturity level. I love my friends and I'm thankful for those I know will always be there. You can not call everyone your friend. It's always better to have one good friend than to have a lot of sharks in your tank. As for my personal relationships...well they have become headaches and although you can not control who you love you can control who you sleep with. I'm just saying.
 
     I'm ready to quit my job and start something new. Hey, it's a new year right? I'm willing to make the ultimate sacrifice for my happiness. It's time to take control of what I want and more so, what I deserve. This is not just a new year... it's my life. It's in God's hands. The horse blinders are off, so are the gloves and everything else. I'm ready to take Renard to a new level of existence.  

That's just where I am today,

- Renard

Hello 2012...

I hope everyone has had a very merry Christmas and I wish everyone a prosperous year.

     The year of 2011 has been a roller coaster ride for me and I'm glad it has finally came to an end. I've made it over the hill and survived all of the twists and turns and I'm grateful to still be here... To live to see another day. The holiday season is all about the celebration of life. When the clock strikes midnight marking the end of a year; everything comes full circle.

     Everything that has happened in 2011 simply becomes a thing of the past. Time to start anew... time to create new memories and celebrate being alive. Whether you watch the ball drop live in Times Square or watched it live in the comfort of your own home we all know that the dropping of the ball symbolizes hope for a better tomorrow and the rebirth of mankind.

     As we bid farewell to 2011 I couldn't help but think of all that I have accomplished and what great things lie ahead. Know that you can make a difference in someones life. Know that you are beautifully human and most importantly, know that you are loved. Take a deep breath and breathe new life into 2012.

Until tomorrow comes, take care for now.

- Renard